Sacred Womanhood…Awakening Self-Love
A couple of years ago I was working with a woman who was trying to heal her cancer. She came to me in desperation. Nothing she was trying (detox, diet change, cold plunges, yoga and more) was helping and she was about to give up all hope. Then our paths crossed.
I admit that this woman was not easy to work with and I soon understood why. Several family members have already died from the exact cancer that my client was struggling to heal. Her doctors convinced her that genetically it was just a matter of time before her own transition. She was sad, exhausted, and so angry that it was hard to have a rational conversation with her. At times, she was so disrespectful to me as a healer and the energy medicine healing modality. She truly believed that I was to heal her on the spot and she was not responsible for making any effort at all.
I explained that my job as an energy healer was to be a conduit for higher spiritual healing frequencies and what she did with that energy was up to her and her life contract. In the past 40 years, I have noticed that people say they want to heal but, truly don’t feel worthy. Plus, it takes effort to go deep within ourselves and clear old harmful beliefs that keep us sick. Most folks wouild rather take a pill or have surgery. In people's minds, inner emotional work is too challenging and stressful.
One day during a healing session this client was just about to offload her same negative, and extremely toxic and worn-out frustrations (meltdown) when suddenly, out of my mouth came the words…Self-love. To my surprise, this notion of loving herself had forced an abrupt pause and emotions began to surface. Finally, my client opened her tear-filled eyes and asked me to explain self-love.
Well—In an upside world where many of us are so self-absorbed, this concept of self-love might instead represent a selfish behavior; however, this is not love. Something so basic as loving the self loses its meaning if you haven’t grown up in a loving and kind family. This self-love conversation was going to take some time, and I was not sure my client had the energy to add one more healing element to her life. Her focus was on a scary death without a God, and she had accepted this fate.
Many women are taught to be kind, generous, accommodating and available to everyone except us. We are not selfish, but loving if we take time to recognize our worth. A worth that is not depending on what we do, how much we give, what we look like or how many people approve of us. True self-love begins when we stop treating ourselves as a project to be fixed and instead start showing ourselves compassion.
Self-love traits:
1. Learning to set loving and healthy boundaries
2. Choosing healthy self-talk
3. Setting time to rest without guilt
4. Choosing relationships that honor our values
5. Releasing the need to be perfect
6. Learning to say "No" when we are overextended
Self-love begins when we can be honest with ourselves and others. Healing requires a deeper truth and a knowing that whatever we have done in the past, we still deserve love. Healing means that our conversations with God/Divine Source must include asking for guidance back to our lovable selves. “God, show me how to love myself so I can heal.”
Blessings,
Jyl Auxter-Kern, PhD
Medical Medium
Author of Upside Down…The Rise of an Evolution
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